Here are some people & places I trust:
ALL YOUR SEX QUESTIONS ANSWERED: http://sfsi.org/
CRISIS RESOURCES via Laci Green: http://lacigreen.tv/crisisresources
SO YOU WANNA BE A SEX EDUCATOR:
http://thecsph.org/our-resources/education/how-to-become-a-sexuality-educator
http://sexademic.wordpress.com/2010/07/26/so-you-want-to-be-a-sex-educator/
OH SNAP. SEX THERAPISTS: http://aasect.org/
SEXUAL HEALTH SERVICES: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/
TEENAGERS ARE PEOPLE, TOO: http://www.scarleteen.com/
Sex Nerd Sandra 
http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/811076?nlid=38384_544&src=wnl_edit_medp_emed&spon=45
– a research paper or sex-related emergency room visits. I had no idea sex could be so dangerous. Oh, who am I kidding – I’m a nurse and have seen them. Fractured penii, anal tears, STD’s, and yet I continue the activity.
Merry Christmas!
One request for the new year…
Could you please do some sound leveling. I have to turn the volume down when ya’ll are laughing or yelling, then have to turn the volume back up to hear when ya’ll are talking it sounds like your whispering, then somebody starts laughing or yelling then have to turn the volume back down. Any way to balance the sound out during post production?
Thank You
My request for the new year: When a person lets me know about tech issues, they will tell me WHICH episodes they are talking about! Since the beginning, the show’s sound has gone through several shifts in how it is prepared.
Are you talking about a specific range of episodes or all 123 of them!? I want to make things better!
Thank you for caring. Happy New Year to you, too.
Hey Sandra!
I adore the show. It’s awesome that you are sharing important information with the sexy (monkey) masses. I appreciate that you take a fun and humorous approach to knowledge.
Now that I’ve given you lots of kudos, I’d like to solicit some advice. I am in a quite committed relationship of about two years and we are almost entirely on the same page about everything. Yet, I have one major issue with our compatibility; our sex drives are polar opposites. I am the sort of person with a pretty high libido, sex daily (if not multiple times a day) would be phenomenal. My high libido is further amplified by taking Wellbutrin daily for anxiety/ADHD. For my boyfriend, however, (slightly vanilla) sex every other week or so seems much more his level. I understand that it stems from low self esteem growing up and essentially lowering his libido to match the what he saw as the likely outcome of his life more or less ending up solo. Obviously there are some self esteem issues on his part. Yet it is coming back and hurting me and therefore our relationship because he is,as I jest, a “sex camel.” The discussions we’ve had about trying to find a middle ground has led to sex about once a week. I have still ended up snappy at times but also quite hurt. I question his attraction to me and it really hurts my self image. I am quite confident he doesn’t understand how much this hurts me and I really don’t want to harp on it. But I could really use some help/advice. As you know, egos are fragile (especially in the bedroom) and I really don’t want to add any stress.
Thank you so much for any insight you’re able to offer. If you’d like to include this in your podcast to help others you’re welcome to use my name.
Thanks once again!
Elle
Wellbuterin works that way does it? I wish I could help. Reading your story makes me wish there was a meter we could read on our potential Significant Others to identify this kind of thing. “Every Day” or “once a month” or “sometimes” flashing above our heads to give us an idea about this.
Listening to Sandra’s podcasts helped me. Unfortunately the help I got from it was the opposite sort of what you are looking for. But her podcasts seemed to be filled with all kinds ideas that would be useful in your situation. The challenge is getting your boyfriend to the table without being too forceful or obvious. Sneaking a couple of Sandra’s podcasts into a drive? I am torn between attempting to go over the top (finding a squick episode that can be squicked together) or gentle.
Dear Sex Nerd Sandra,
I am a big fan of yours. I love the fact that there is young, hip, and very nerdy female sex theropist that asks all the questions that I have wondered (or didn’t wonder but was happy to learn). After listening to your podcast for the past few months I thought that there would be no one else I should direct my questions to.
To start off I am a 29 year old white male from Georgia. I currently live with my family because of medical problems (that of which I will explain more of shortly). Dispite being 29 I am still a virgin. I’ve never even had a girlfriend before. As a child I was raised (much like yourself) in a very Christian family. I was taught that sex was something that should be saved for marriage and not for outside marriage. I was also told that “I was one of God’s miracles” because I had survived four open heart surgeries (last one being at age 7). This in part lead to a lot of other medical problems that I won’t go into today. But let’s just say I wasn’t what any girl would consider boyfriend material.
As of late I have been trying to meet women. I want to make my first time at sex to be with someone special. Hell I don’t care if I end up getting married to my first girlfriend. I’m just so tired of being alone (this especially, because last year my best and only friend died). It seems like the only women that don’t have boyfriends are the ones I don’t find attractive at all. I realize that I haven’t asked any questions as of yet so here are some.
1. Should I really focus on making my first time with someone that I have a relationship with? Or if I meet someone and things start to get serious I should just go for it.
2. What do I do if things get serious? I live with my parents so going back to my place isn’t an option. And a lot of women are turned off when they find out that a man still lives with my parents.
3. WILL YOU PLEASE BRING ONE OF YOUR SHOWS TO GEORGIA!?!?!?!?!?
4. Would you do me the favor of saying “Giggidy” or “Heh all right” on a recording? I realize that has bearence on the topic at hand. Just thought I’d ask.
Well that’s all I have for now. I truely hope to hear back from you soon. Looking forward to your future broadcasts.
Yours Truly,
Christopher Hereford
P.S.
Sorry for the long email.
P.P.S.
My best friend that passed away actually had a law passed in his name before he died. If you are interested look up Keone’s Law.
Dear Sex Nerd Sandra,
I am a big fan of yours. I love the fact that there is young, hip, and very nerdy female sex theropist that asks all the questions that I have wondered (or didn’t wonder but was happy to learn). After listening to your podcast for the past few months I thought that there would be no one else I should direct my questions to.
To start off I am a 29 year old white male from Georgia. I currently live with my family because of medical problems (that of which I will explain more of shortly). Dispite being 29 I am still a virgin. I’ve never even had a girlfriend before. As a child I was raised (much like yourself) in a very Christian family. I was taught that sex was something that should be saved for marriage and not for outside marriage. I was also told that “I was one of God’s miracles” because I had survived four open heart surgeries (last one being at age 7). This in part lead to a lot of other medical problems that I won’t go into today. But let’s just say I wasn’t what any girl would consider boyfriend material.
As of late I have been trying to meet women. I want to make my first time at sex to be with someone special. Hell I don’t care if I end up getting married to my first girlfriend. I’m just so tired of being alone (this especially, because last year my best and only friend died). It seems like the only women that don’t have boyfriends are the ones I don’t find attractive at all. I realize that I haven’t asked any questions as of yet so here are some.
1. Should I really focus on making my first time with someone that I have a relationship with? Or if I meet someone and things start to get serious I should just go for it.
2. What do I do if things get serious? I live with my parents so going back to my place isn’t an option. And a lot of women are turned off when they find out that a man still lives with my parents.
3. WILL YOU PLEASE BRING ONE OF YOUR SHOWS TO GEORGIA!?!?!?!?!?
4. Would you do me the favor of saying “Giggidy” or “Heh all right” on a recording? I realize that has bearence on the topic at hand. Just thought I’d ask.
Well that’s all I have for now. I truely hope to hear back from you soon. Looking forward to your future broadcasts.
Yours Truly,
Chris
P.S.
Sorry for the long email.
P.P.S.
My best friend that passed away actually had a law passed in his name before he died. If you are interested look up Keone’s Law.
Hello love, I’m huge fan hoping that you may be able to recommend any spaces in NYC that are sex positive or workshops and such , any info would be greatly appreciated , Thanks so much
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Hello,
I love the podcast! I need some advice. I am about to marry my best friend, which I am supper stocked about…. However, as my best friend I know all his dirty secrets. Through the years I have become a very jealous person which I can’t stand. When I am single and not in a committed relationship I have a blast and don’t worry so much about my insecurities and jealousy. I want so bad to get past this and be able to tak to my fiancé about things he’s done in the past with other women and use it as a tool not a handicap. My goal is to be in a fun ever changing sexual relationship with my husband where we can experiment and try new things including porn and strikers withnout gettin jealous and insecure. Jealously is my most hated feeling and I find myself constantly battling it. But when he talks about his threesomes and adventures sex with others, I can’t stand it. It may be because I never got to experience those more adventurous things or because he is talking about it…. I think a combination of both. When we were just friends and fooling around none of it bothered me but now that we are getting married it has become a constant bag to my insecurities . Any advice????
Dear Sandra,
I want to start by thanking you very sincerely for your podcast, and for your sex positive message. Listening to your conversations with experts, and hearing your views on sexuality have helped to ground me as I have worked hard during the last two years to understand what a healthy relationship with my own sexuality might look like. Two years ago today, I came to the conclusion that I’m a sex and love addict. And by that, I mean that my relationship with my own sexuality – the ways that I used sex – was distorted and unhealthy. The past two years of my life have been a journey to understand how out of control the expression of my sexuality had become and, to an extent, why I was doing what I was doing.
During the last several months, I’ve been getting a glimpse and an understanding of what sex could be like in my life. And resources like your podcast, Sex Criminals, and other documentaries have helped me to see a better way of relating to my own sexuality.
I don’t have it all figured out – not by a longshot. But I’ve come to understand that I’m on a journey of discovery. And you continue to be a help and guide to me. So thanks for that. I appreciate you.
Sincerely,
Scott
I just finished listening to your podcast with Megan Andelloux and I wanted to say thank you for having that conversation, and for setting an example of how to support people with cognitive and neurological disabilities. Also, thank you for telling people not to help or fix Megan.
My brother has chronic fatigue among other health issues and has talked with me a lot about loneliness and feeling unwanted and undesired. He also has his own health journey to make and it doesn’t help when people try to explain what is wrong, how they can fix it, or that one last test that he needs to do. His body is his decision and his body’s health is especially his decision. Most days, he wants someone to sit with and not judge him and ask him how they can support him and most days he just likes sharing space without the expectation to entertain or talk. And from what I heard, it sounded like you were offering that type of support to Megan. Both your questions and demeanor resonated a lot with my own experience and hearing Megan’s perspective as well was helpful to know that some people are talking about cognitive disabilities and sexuality.
When I listed to your podcast, I had a thought: I hope to meet you one day and in the meantime, I’m happy listening to your podcast and seeing how I can support your work in other ways.
Thanks again for all your work.
Taz